Things have been really busy, really stressful, and not particularly conducive to blogging. I have sat and attempted to write a few times, but nothing came out.
Then I shaved my head again (Trich relapse, goddammit motherfucking arse cock FUCK), cried a lot about losing the hair I worked so hard to grow, and now I'm starting again, again. For the umpteenth time. It's so fucking hard to keep trying when I keep failing, but on I go.
It's getting too cold to go around bald-headed, so have been wearing a lot of daggy beanies, and occasionally my Bettie Page-esque wig, which has received compliments even when people know it's a wig. That makes me feel a little uncomfortable...people think I look great even if I'm bald, but then the wig looks good too? I've got to stop over-thinking things, and worrying about what other people think. People do seem to think I'm a cancer patient though, and it makes me feel sick, which I guess I am in a way, but usually I can hide it, because it's "not that big a deal" (at least, not to anyone who HAS hair).
On a positive note, I weighed myself the other day, and I'm down to 68 kilos! I started at 94, so we're getting somewhere! I can look at myself and although I'm not a hundred percent happy with my reflection, I can see that I just need a bit of sun, a bit of exercise, some delicious healthy food and a decent night's sleep. This is a very good thing! I don't mind improving myself - I WANT to look perfect, but I'm not so unhappy with the way I look that I'm impatient to diet crazily, join a gym that I won't go to, or do much other than what I've been doing for the past year to get this far.
I'm hoping that the negative things will work themselves out in time. It just sucks that any stress in my life sends me into a relapse that takes MONTHS to recover from. I feel so fragile, and I hate it. I hate that I'm not strong and capable and all the things I try to be. I am working on building a support network of lovely, positive people, and hopefully just having less negativity around me will help me to feel less anxious in the long-term, rather than straight away.
All this work, and it feels like I get no play! I play with Indigo all day, but it's hard to find time to relax without simply falling asleep. It's hard when all my favourite, cheap things to do are homey, crafty things - Indy wants my full attention, and hates when she can see me, but I won't completely engage with her. It's very frustrating, so I haven't made any crafty things in months! Dave is allowed to do things, though. Princess Indigo decrees it. Maybe it's because Dave has always insisted on having a bit of time to himself - I think he's better at self-regulation than I am. I find it hard to know my limits, and am always mentally, physically or emotionally taking on more than I can bear. I need to take a few tips from Dave, I think. Or maybe just be a better listener.
This is a really wonky post that is rambling all over the shop. I think I'll stop here.
Hey Han, i know this is from a fair while ago but just wanted to let u know i am still thinking about u heaps and im not sure if you use it but added you to google+.ReplyDelete
You shouldnt be so hard on yourself. You cant help your condition, with or without hair you are a real stunner. Having a baby and balancing everything is extremly stressful especially when u dont get time to yourself ( believe me i know it can be hard since kaitlyns father barely wants to take her and shes so clingy and whingy now that shes 4 months off being 2 and im working more just to keep a roof over mine and her head).
I think you should definatly take some tips from Dave, it might do u the world of good, even if u can leave her with him for a few hrs and put some headphones in with ur fav music blasting do ur crafty stuff or go for a walk :) congrats on getting closer to ur goal weight, u must give me some tips, ive only lost 4kg and i cant notice any difference. Take care and keep in touch, i gave u my number a while back if u dont have it let me know, im here to talk. Xx
*HUGS* THANKYOU AMY! I just saw this comment, thanks Blogger, and I really appreciate the support. xoxoxoxoxoDelete